Can You Choose Your Baby's Sex?
Trying for a boy? Really want a little girl? Find out if it's possible to choose your babe's gender
You know you have a 50/50 chance of having a boy or girl when you decide you’re ready to have kids, but did you know that there are actually a couple of natural methods to increase your odds of having one over the other? Here are a few methods you can try that have been around for generations. (Remember, there’s still a 50/50 chance you won’t get that precious pink bundle you’ve been hoping for; there’s no guarantee using these methods.)
This is probably the most well-known method for choosing your child’s gender. In the 1970s Dr. Landrum Shettles introduced his theory (in his book How to Choose the Sex of your Baby) which involved trying specific sexual positions and timing intercourse to a woman’s cycle.
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Shettles says that if you want to have a boy, don’t have intercourse for four or five days prior to ovulation. Instead, it’s best to have sex as close to ovulation as possible; the Y-chromosome (male sperm) are faster, smaller and have a better chance of getting to the egg before the X-chromosome (female sperm).
Other ways to increase your odds of having a boy, according to Shettles:
- Try a position that allows for deep penetration. Shettles says that the closer the sperm is to the cervix the better (this way “boy” sperm are more likely to reach the cervix before they die — they have shorter life-spans than the “girl” sperm). The cervical fluid right around the cervix is also ideal for Y-chromosome sperm.
- Dads-to-be should wear loose-fitting underwear and pants because tight clothing can can kill sperm and the Y-chromosome sperm die quicker than the the X-chromosome sperm.
- Moms-to-be should have an orgasm because the secretions caused by orgasms are less acidic and more Y-chromosome-sperm-friendly.
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To increase your odds of having a girl, according to Shettles:
- Don’t have sex on the day you ovulate. Instead, have intercourse two to three days before ovulation then abstain until a couple days after. Shettles says that having sex before ovulation will increase the chances that the X-chromosome sperm will be waiting to fertilize the egg when it’s released.
- Try a position that allows for shallow penetration (such as missionary or other positions that will leave sperm farther away from the cervix).
- Moms-to-be shouldn’t have an orgasm because the secretions caused by orgasms are less acidic, which benefts the “boy” sperm.
How effective is it: Shettles and followers claim there’s a 75% success rate using this method.
Also based on timing intercourse to your cycle, Whelan believes the opposite of Shettles. Dr. Elizabeth Whelan says that there are changes in our body’s chemicals that favour Y-chromosome sperm earlier in your cycle and X-chromosome sperm later.
To increase your chances of having a boy, Whelan says you should have sex four to six days before ovulation (and before your basal body temperature rises).
To increase your chances of having a girl, she says you should abstain until two to three days before ovulation.
How effective is it: Whelan claimed there was about a 68% success rate for boys and a 56% success rate for girls.
Chinese gender predictor
This one’s been around for hundreds of years. They believe that comparing the mother’s age at the time of conception and the month of conception will predict what you’ll have. (Don’t paint baby’s room pink just yet — this chart works 50% of the time.)
Old wives' tales
Wondering what other methods are floating around? Here are a few worth noting (but not necessarily worth trying!)
Trying for a boy?
- Eat as many salty foods as you want
- Load up on red meat
- Have intercourse standing up
- Have intercourse on odd-numbered days
- Have intercourse during a full moon
Trying for a girl?
- Eat sweets, sweets and more sweets
- Eat lots of fish and veggies
- Mom-to-be should orgasm before dad
- Have intercourse on even-numbered days
- Have intercourse when the moon is a quarter full
Information is current as of the original date of publication.
~ DEFINITELY ..'SCIENCE' !!! Your IGNORANCE is 'showing' !
I find .. people who say ALL the 'absurd/incorrect' things, are the 'uneducated' ones. IT never fails !! Too BAD, they are the ones to comment on things, they know nothing about !! HUMANS are the ONLY world's 'species', who know nothing about HOW their bodies work !! Superior? 'I think not'.
I CAN'T BELIEVE HOW MANY PEOPLE > DON'T HAVE GR.13,, 'BIOLOGY' !!
IT'S THERE !! IT'S "SCIENCE", PEOPLE !! VAGINAL PH IS A FACT. Alkaline=boy.
Acidic=girl. I read a 'rant' about women should have as many 'orgasms' as they want .. So, 'DO SO' ! Just NOT that ONE time, when trying to conceive a girl > Orgasm produces that alkaline secretion, you DON'T want. SHETTLES works !!! I have a daughter to prove it !! Change your diet & follow directions. Have you EVER wondered WHY so many boys are being born, now? 'Ovulation indicators' are available now !! "Bang on >BOY"! GIRL? > 3-4 days BEFORE ovulation occurs, ONLY. Make your vagina >ACIDIC !!
No complaints To be Honest even before I juge the techniques I would Try it and see by my self :) And beside its fun to try !! :)
And I agree with "wow"...people just need to relax..this article was for "Entertainment value" .... sheesh...
well, my husband and I are going to start trying for another baby this August...we're waiting until August because I don't want to be pregnant again during the very warm summer months...
I don't believe in these old wives tales, but even if I did..what's the harm...isn't it more fun and for entertainment value. We already have a girl, and we would love to have a boy this time around...won't change how much we love our baby either way...but if these little tricks and suggestions can do something, then we'll try them (and I'm not opposed to having an orgasms lol) .. and I've looked at that chinese birth chart thing...it's been right for all of my friends babies with the exeption of one...soo I'll give that a whirl too...
it's all just for kicks...until the real ones start :)
RELAX PEOPLE! It is clearly an article for entertainment purposes! To shoo19 ... No where in this article does it say anything about being a Scientific Report! It has a few theories about how to sway the gender, it does not claim to work .. in fact it basically says it's all 50/50.
To blainek .. you are just a moron .. the things in this article have some warrant. Also, nowhere in this article does it say that if these methods fail, to kill which ever child you have created. RELAX!
To Taeyeon .. What are you even talking about? Who said anything about being unsatisfied with their husbands due to the sex of the child? And maybe you should READ the article ... at the bottom where it has the OLD WIVES' TALES.. it says TRYING for a girl?? and TRYING for a boy?? ... meaning that the wives' tales below were about eating those foods WHILE TRYING! Once you are pregnant you are no longer trying AND there is nothing you could do to change the sex of the child ....
To the last lady ranting about being happy with what you get .... the majority of women that try these things are women who only want one more child and would like to have whatever sex they don't already have with their current children. I think it would be rare to find someone who would not love their child even if it wasn't the sex they were hoping for ... so get off your high horse ....
lol wow this leads to so many suggestive things its not even funny.. well, it kinda is, but still...
p.s. eating salty foods and sweets while pregnant is just going to give ur baby bad health, and nothing more. i wouldnt reccomend doing that. eat HEALTHY and you'll get a healthy baby regardless of if it is a boy or girl.
Wow! This is brings back memories. Thirty years ago a read an article in Readers Digest which was the same info. I had 2 girls and my friend had 2 boys, and we were both trying for another child. We embarked on doing what was written in the article. I had a boy and she had a girl. I believe in it and there is science to it i.e whether the vagina is acid or not, male sperm move faster so caffeine can speed it up more.
If you are thinking of having a another child and you would like to choose his/her sex, then what have you got to lose? If you don't believe it will work that is ok too. It will still be a surprise!
a comment to anyone who uses the words "sex" and "gender" interchangeably:
the two are actually very different. sex is biologically determined, gender is socially constructed.
and it is true that Y sperm are short-distance swimmers and have shorter life spans. the closer the female is to menstruation, the greater the chances a Y sperm will fertilize the egg, and vice-versa.
still, the science is not exact-- what science is? there's always going to be that 50% chance of having a child of either sex.