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Updated: January 16, 2013 10:30 AM | By Jenna McCarthy and Sally Farhat Kassab
12 Ways to Stop Temper Tantrums

Few things can make you feel more helpless as a parent than facing a kid having a full-scale meltdown. To help, here are 12 smart ways to stop a tantrum -- one of them is bound to work



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Nothing can short-circuit your sanity like a screaming toddler having a full-on meltdown. While you can't prevent or stop every tantrum, these proven expert moves can help make them less frequent and a lot more manageable.

Cut Your Kid Some Slack

What to Know: First and foremost, keep in mind that temper tantrums are a normal part of toddlerhood that help your child become more independent. "The phase from 18 months to about four years old is a critical period of development in which a child learns he's a separate being from Mommy," explains Dr. Fran Walfish, a psychotherapist in Beverly Hills, CA and the author of The Self-Aware Parent: Resolving Conflict and Building A Better Bond with Your Child. While he's establishing his independence, he's also learning to control not only his body, but his feelings -- and that takes time.

What to Do: When your child has a violent outburst, remind yourself that most tantrums are normal. "Your challenge as the parent is to balance love and nurture with setting and holding boundaries," says Dr. Fran. As hard as it is not to lose it yourself, try to be patient and use some of the following strategies to get through it.

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Jan 19, 2013 10:36AM
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It's no wonder we have to put up with so many screaming kids kids in the stores.The rest of the people in the stores do not want to put up with your kids misbehaving,this also applies to restaurants.If you want to train this way at least take your kids outside were you can continue to have your untrained, spoiled,misbehaveing kids ruin only your day and watch them continue to run and dominate only your life.We have all seen these same kids continue to be rude and unmindful of there parents till someone would like to really throttle them.Take a hint you and your parents would not have put up with this kind of corrective actions and its about time you stopped this useless way to handle these spoiled kids.
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