We love our children — we really do. But certain traits and phases can be infuriating. Here's what's going on inside your kid's brain

this is all not so "common sense" stuff, the bottom line is people need to stop expecting children to behave as adults. Children( very young) have not been here long enough to understand how to express or deal with (contain) their emotions , this takes time which from my perspective many adults don't understand . My favorite is when those whom have never had children of there own expect  a baby or small child to behave like grown adults. This is also why so many people are putting their children on drugs to subdue their behavior, " my  5yrs old doesn't sit still and has the attention span of a nat, please help!!"  no freaking ****ng its called being a child. Kids aren't meant to sit still all day long, how would their coordination and muscles develop otherwise. Those parents whom feel this is the only solution need to start being parents ( nobody said it was easy) and the teachers and schools whom push these drugs on parents and their children need to re-think why they are there and teaching. young children are not meant to sit about all day and have the attention span of young adults and adults ! I'm not saying let children run free, everyone needs rules to live by children the most  as a solid foundation allows a child to feel safe, as they know whats expected of them. And I'm a firm believer in the saying" if you expect nothing, then you get nothing" However those expectations need to be realistic of the child in question , when a 2yrs old has a melt down sometimes there's no getting around it , no re-directing their attention and that roller coaster of emotion, you just gotta ride it out. Believe me no parent wants to listen to their child cry scream or otherwise listen too their child have a meltdown and they are not immune!!.I get very tired of hearing adults putting down parents and almost pouting about the fact that someones small child had a melt down or wasn't behaving in an adult manner . the whole attitude toward parents , babies and young children is disgraceful to say the least . I have heard adults pout about the fact that it would not be ok it they started having a meltdown in fronted of everyone,  well guess what when that infant or small child is a young adult or adult it won't be ok for them to behave in that manner ether, of course by then they will have had ample time to learn to control their emotions , so get over your self!!

I hope these ppl have children.  My daughter at a young age took off on me during xmas shopping and the parking lot was busy I spanked her for it right in front of everyone she never took off again but according to these pple my child was exparementing with me whatever my child is alive what should she have died because of their results.  They are wrong. If children need to pull tantrums or do what they are doing than the parents of those kids need help because time outs talkings screamming and other precautions do not work. My child at a young age knew who was boss, she never tried to pull the wool over my eyes

I have raised three children and have grandchildren;  each one is (was) different. Children have bad days the same adults and children should not be expected to know what an adult knows in how to  behave. HOWEVER......childre​n should know where the line is drawn.  No back-talk, no screaming, no meanness to others and taught not to be selfish.  There is a way to teach children rules without being mean yourself.....be fair and just and the child will adjust accordingly.  Of course a parent should never spank because of an accident (dropping ice cream for example or spilling a drink)  but if a child has been warned several times not to do something that may not be safe for them, then a  controlled spanking it is!

I would read it if there was something herer to read..

I have raised three children and have grandkids, and each one is different.  Each child handles dicipline differently also; what works for one, may not work for the others.  I do not think a child should be punished for accidents or be punished  because  the parent had a rotten day.  There is a saying that" ---- rolls downhill" and some children never know what the consequences will be  if the parent themselves are not CONSISTENT. There has to be control and a degree of firmness as long as the punishment is fair  and fits the crime and the parent themselves are in control.  when handling it.  Always remember to talk about it after so that the lesson is learned.  

complete pile of crap! children have parents for a reason , we guide and correct negative behavior, we encourage and nurture positive. If children were meant to simply develop on their own and act in any manner their emotions or impulses brought forth without any parental guidance , we would have nothing but a generation of selfish , insensitive, arrogant and infantile adults,, oh wait we already do.

i agree with cleo201 its is all on the parents kids need disaplen and respect with out it they wont learn its the parents job to teach them if they dont thats when u get the kids that dont care and get away with anything

Dear me people there is no right and wrong to parenting but rather, what kind of outcome our teachings will result in.  I am neither offended or agree completely with the article because it should only be here to give you the other side of the coin.  If you've been too harsh and expected them to act 18 at age 0 (like me) then you may rethink things.  At the same time if you've been too soft then you should try to avoid one of your kids turning into a monstrousity i.e. fighting to get in the elevator when there are clearly wheelchairs and strollers around.

Ramakrishna stick to the hary krishna metaphores!! your an idiot. allowing children to rule you is not only stupid its why children who are allowed to do this grow up to be abbusive totheir own children and other adults!! the reason we setablish who is the adult and athuority figure and who is the child is balance. allow them an inch they take a mile is not just a saying. i observed a mother of two allow her son to take temper tantruims. she enabled him and when he got more exspresive and loud she freaked out more only fueling his out burst even more. when his uncle stepped up and confronted the son he stopped and saw he wasn't getting away with it with him and ran away from the situation. we need toe stablis boundies and sometimes the situation calls for tough love as they say.