We love our children — we really do. But certain traits and phases can be infuriating. Here's what's going on inside your kid's brain
Do you ever shake your head at your kid's less-than-perfect behaviour? Joseph Shrand, a child psychiatrist and instructor at Harvard Medical School, explains that the two distinct parts of a still-developing human brain are mismatched: “Children’s limbic brain, responsible for impulses, emotions and pleasure, is more mature than their prefrontal cortex, responsible for thinking, making decisions and anticipating consequences.” In other words, poor behaviour isn't necessarily a result of poor thinking. Kids aren’t thinking (at least not the way adults can).
Here are 10 behaviours that baffle us — and the science behind them.
A version of this article appeared in our September 2012 issue with the headline "10 things to forgive your kids for (and why)," pp. 66-70.
Information is current as of the original date of publication.
I'm sorry but this is just justifying bad behavior. You're saying it's okay for children to be mean, selfish and rude and telling parents that they shouldn't correct this. That's what wrong with society today, there's a reason for every bad behavior so it's let to continue. I was raised being told what's right and wrong and I think I turned out pretty good. I expect decent behavior from my children and yes they get punished for bad. If you make someone feel bad with your words you will be put on time out and learn that it's not okay to say that. If you don't share the other child gets it all and you are left out to see how it feels. If bad behavior is never corrected it continues even into adulthood which is why what used to be common decency is no longer common but a rarity.
WHy does 'today' say 'don't punish' or 'no consequence' so much? My goodness! We now have mere babies as teens. They never hear NO or WAIT anymore. They cry at the smallest thing. Change is now mortifying to kids. HELLO!!! Change is life. These kids will have no coping skills by the time they graduate. I love my children enough to support them thru change, not protect them from it. They lose a priviledge when they are rude, behaving badly, etc. They are well behaved in school. Good grades. Play sports. Can LOSE without crying like a baby. This newsbit is crazy.
There is a limit on the amount of B.S. parents will take I have four children and yes they are all different, the one thing that is the same is my rules, and kids are ADAPTIVE to change and learn from there mistakes isn't it logical that discipline and repetition is the best way to make them better people. Putting a kid in time out or using a wimpy whinny voice to tell them not to do something is not the answer. The government and these so called experts in child behavior have no clue because they don’t care about the kids or there parents, all they care about is THE ALL MIGHTY DOLLAR. People have raised children since the beginning of humanity, there are those who have no clue what to do, there are those who use there heads and logically can be good parents, who can make there kids use there own heads to make the right choices. When I see people let there kids doo whatever they want and use the ( I can’t control him excuse ) all I want to do is smack them upside the head and tell them to grow a pair.
Check into the reactions of children (or adults) with " Asperger Syndrome". It causes extreme behavior and complete meltdowns if anythng interrupts the person suffering from this disease.
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