“As a preggo lady, I had a long list. Most of those ‘I will nevers’ have gone out the window (I’m talking co-sleeping, bathing with baby, hold a sleeping baby), but something I will not do is nurse a preschooler. I am super granola regarding most things to do with my daughter, but if she is asking for milk, call me crazy but I think it should come from a cup.” – Amy
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As for the expensive-looking clothes, they could be hand-me-downs, from Value Village, or from generous grandparents,. Don't assume the parent of a well-dressed child is a shopaholic!
The only one I really agreed with is the bike trailer one. I have seen helmeted dads ride through red lights with their un-helmeted kids in the trailer; I have seen kids in open trailers without helmets AND with seatbelts unfastened; I have seen parents maneuver bikes with trailers in the most unsafe traffic situations. I would strongly recommend parents use such trailers only on quiet streets, and that they ensure the child has a helmet and is buckled in. Unlike the other items in this list of "don'ts" , this one can seriously harm or kill your child.
Overall, however, I think parenting is the most difficult and challenging job in the world, and it's quite common for many of us to do our best parenting before we have kids (like the people who wrote this article).
One final word: STOP BLAMING MOMS FOR EVERYTHING. Why is the "white diet" Mom's fault and not Dad's?
Amy said it best, "As a preggo lady, I had a long list. Most of those ‘I will nevers’ have gone out the window."
Most of these people sound like they dont have kids or the kids arent old enough to reach the stage they so judgmentally refuse to do. I'd love to follow up with them 20 years from now to see if they stuck with their resolutions!
Relax with the "nevers" and "always" of parenting.
So ... what happened to the other 2 things? Ok, lets say even that the title was included that only makes 10, so they're still one short. Why are people getting so up tight about articles like these, when the people writing (or posting) them can't even be bothered to make sure the post delivers what it says it will?!
Relax and raise your kids with love & respect. You're a human not a machine, everyone makes mistakes & everyone is going to learn the lessons of "Never & Always". At the end of the day YOU raise your children, not some MSN article intended for entertainment value.
Best advice I ever was given: go with your guts!
With the all white diet, its not always the parents fault. My mother in law is a vegetarian obsessed with natural and organic foods. She was very adamant that her children be the same with the exception she wanted them to have a choice to eat meat. My sister in law to this day does not eat vegetables except corn. Even now my mother in law is trying to get her to eat her veggies.
I always vowed not to do that to my children. I do encourage my toddler to try everything but if she doesn't like it (whether she actually eats some or just touches her tongue to it or doesn't like the smell), I don't press it. I thank her for trying it and re-introduce it sometime in the future (days, weeks or months later, depending on the food).
I am a healthy eater and like lots of things but there are still vegetables (and some non-vegetable foods) that I can't stand and don't eat. Why would I force my child eat stuff she doesn't like?
As long as a variety of food is offered and she sees Mom and Dad (mostly Mom since Dad was forced to eat vegetables and now won't eat any of them) eating them and enjoying them, she will try them eventually (she's already happy to try most things if she sees me eating them and likes many things I'm surprised to see a toddler eat). She has gone through a couple of one-food-only phases but they were very short lived when she saw me eating different things that I was clearly enjoying.
Ahh, the words of wisdom from those without experience. Nothing rings less true. Any mom with a few kids or a few years under her belt knows a two things, 1) none of this stuff matters and 2) if you are spending that much time judging others, you have too much free time.
Your kid has a soother at 4? Who cares, not my problem.
Your kid loves white bread? Oh well, I'm sure they like other things too.
Your daughter loves pink and frills and sparkles? Good for her, when else can you dress like a princess everyday.
You use a stroller? Hey, if it works for you, why not.
Your kid is running wild at the mall? Just so happy it isn't me this time (sorry).
strollers, bottles, soothers and carrying all of these things can be harmful if left way to long. Strollers if your using it as a containment unit for your child then your rules or rule enforcement are to lax; your the leader by default but not forever your child can be the boss of you if you let them (and who wouldn't want to be pushed around if had the choice)
Bottles and soothers follow the same lines; bottles are your child's favourite thing to eat and have never tried anything else or had a reason to and if they stay on it for too long they will have digestive problems. Soothers take your pick, lack of will power, misaligned teeth, speak impediments all because you found the easy way to keep your child quiet, Congrats.
Carrying the kids to much promotes laziness, weak legs and tippy toe walking and general dependency issues. Ever wonder why there is more and more brats everywhere you go... ask them how long they held them, kept them in the stroller and gave them bottles and soothers you'll find a commonality.