When we fail to prioritize intimacy the way we do other aspects of our lives, we weaken our connection to our partner, and our relationships suffer. But each of these mistakes is reversible, so check out our expert advice!
Avoiding Sex Talk
To have a great sex life, you have to talk about it. And though having sex seems to be easier than talking about it, the awkward conversations are essential to a hot sex life. This is because there are no universal truths about sex, the body and attraction. Each person is different and no expert can tell you what works for you or your partner. The only way to know is to talk openly about your desires and concerns.
It you're not loving your sex life and suffering in silence, it's time to speak up. Follow these three steps to ease into this tough conversation:
1. Compliment. Talk about what you do like.
2. Ask. Welcome your partner's input, suggestions and concerns.
3. Share. Express your concerns being mindful of your words, facial expressions and body language to engage your partner.
And remember that you don't have to get through all three steps in one sitting!
i'd agree with Kevs95. it's not so much rough sex. it's the reward factor, from an article in a science magazine "love is partically derived from desire. "Love is actually a habit that is formed from sexual desire as desire is rewarded. It works the same way in the brain as when people become addicted to drugs."
if a guy doesn't show that desire with a woman...neither partner is rewarded (even if love is there with all his heart) if that reward is not there from the "habit" (for lack of a better word) of making love...both parties will start to question if the love is actually there....if a woman feels no love...she will be looking elsewhere.
Seriously Kevs95 (aka The missing link)?! I'm sure this was a popular mind set among Primates but I'd like to think men have evolved just a tad! I can't believe their are other knuckle draggers out there who would agree with him!
I would say, Men should show initiative and a little 'mock' aggression isn't a bad thing but you should care if something hurts and be sensitive to her feelings.
Oh, Kevs95, one more thing you might not have clued into.... just fyi, These days we also adhere to the following phrase, "No means No". Just in case your confused about that as well.
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