Letting Themselves Go
Neglecting your appearance altogether sends a strong message to your partner about how you feel and how you want to be perceived.
When people complain that their partners have let themselves go, they are not usually talking about a bit of weight gain or the typical bodily changes that come with age. The natural changes that develop with time and age do not constitute letting yourself go. In fact, they should be celebrated and we all need to find a way to enjoy our evolving bodies.
But when you stop putting any effort into the way you look, it can take a serious toll on your sex life, health and body image. It's not usually an issue of how you look, but how much effort you put into your health and hygiene. Sex therapist, Dr. Guy Grenier explains:
"Couples will notice that their partner will try to look their best when going to work or when having friends over, but seldom go to the same lengths when it is just the two of them. Putting an effort into your appearance and presentation is another 'sexual secret' that goes a long way to keeping things exciting in longterm relationships."
i'd agree with Kevs95. it's not so much rough sex. it's the reward factor, from an article in a science magazine "love is partically derived from desire. "Love is actually a habit that is formed from sexual desire as desire is rewarded. It works the same way in the brain as when people become addicted to drugs."
if a guy doesn't show that desire with a woman...neither partner is rewarded (even if love is there with all his heart) if that reward is not there from the "habit" (for lack of a better word) of making love...both parties will start to question if the love is actually there....if a woman feels no love...she will be looking elsewhere.
Seriously Kevs95 (aka The missing link)?! I'm sure this was a popular mind set among Primates but I'd like to think men have evolved just a tad! I can't believe their are other knuckle draggers out there who would agree with him!
I would say, Men should show initiative and a little 'mock' aggression isn't a bad thing but you should care if something hurts and be sensitive to her feelings.
Oh, Kevs95, one more thing you might not have clued into.... just fyi, These days we also adhere to the following phrase, "No means No". Just in case your confused about that as well.
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