Telling White Lies
You're probably sick of experts telling you to "be honest", but rest assured that we are far from casting stones. Most of us don't intend to lie about sex - we just have difficulty being honest with ourselves about this highly sensitive and often confusing topic.
Unfortunately, untrue excuses like "I have a headache!" can do more harm than good and send your sex life down a slippery slope of dishonesty instead of addressing the real issues at hand. The next time you feel inclined to tell a little white lie, think about what you're really feeling and try to express your concerns instead of covering them up.
i'd agree with Kevs95. it's not so much rough sex. it's the reward factor, from an article in a science magazine "love is partically derived from desire. "Love is actually a habit that is formed from sexual desire as desire is rewarded. It works the same way in the brain as when people become addicted to drugs."
if a guy doesn't show that desire with a woman...neither partner is rewarded (even if love is there with all his heart) if that reward is not there from the "habit" (for lack of a better word) of making love...both parties will start to question if the love is actually there....if a woman feels no love...she will be looking elsewhere.
Seriously Kevs95 (aka The missing link)?! I'm sure this was a popular mind set among Primates but I'd like to think men have evolved just a tad! I can't believe their are other knuckle draggers out there who would agree with him!
I would say, Men should show initiative and a little 'mock' aggression isn't a bad thing but you should care if something hurts and be sensitive to her feelings.
Oh, Kevs95, one more thing you might not have clued into.... just fyi, These days we also adhere to the following phrase, "No means No". Just in case your confused about that as well.
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