“An affair is a stress-busting, thrill-seeking, self-medicating high,” says Weil. And, while a woman may cheat to see if she can get away with it, she often doesn’t really want to get caught, says Bowman: “She just wants the bird in her hand and the one in the bush - and she’s deluded into thinking that she really can have both.” But this reason is perhaps less common than others, says infidelity expert Ruth Houston, founder of InfidelityAdvice.com. “[A woman] will usually try to let her husband know that there is a problem first,” she explains. “If he fails to address them, ignores her, or takes her complaint lightly, she may then cheat because feels she has no other choice."
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This is such a joke.... and i'm not laughing
One thing on here really cracks me up. Under the "They Seek Revenge" part. The 'doctor' says that “Men are not emotional so they usually can't feel the same pain unless it is done back to them.” That's a crock if i've ever heard it in my life.
Men ARE emotional, we just have totally different emotions then women do, that's all. And, i've never cheated on a woman before, but i've been cheated on, so don't give me that.
There is NEVER a reason or excuse to cheat. If you are unhappy, just simply leave. Breaking a relationship hurts WAY less then being cheated on.
God, this is such a biased article if I ever heard one. So basically what the author is saying that the main reason why women are unfaithful is because it's the fault of the guys. Utter crap all over.
While I do agree that we as men have our flaws, so do the women and it's time to stop using the blame game as a justification for the crap that is pulled when someone cheats. The fact of the matter is that reason why women will cheat for the most part is because they can be as selfish and lowdown as men are and nothing else. It's time for both sexes to stop passing blame for their own actions and own up to them.
What an awe inspiring article about human sexuality written by a TRAVEL WRITER. Definitely Pulitzer prize winning. Imagine gathering together facts known for more than forty years and astounding the world with such originality.
Congratulations MSN for another pathetic article that could be written by drunken teenagers everywhere.
“Men are not emotional so they usually can't feel the same pain unless it is done back to them,” says Bonnie Weil, Ph.D.
O.k....why get married if you believe you cannot be faithful?. I got married at the age twenty,all my pals said "wait a minute,you are to young wait until you are at least thirty".Well it sure has not been easy but as of today it has been 18 years since the day i said "I do".
Things got bad sometimes,but running out and cheating would just make things so much worse and complicated......
Things do get better....i feel now more in love and into my wife then ever ,with all the life experiences we went through together: life,death ups and downs of life itself. she has always been their when i needed her most.
So you have to give it time,put everything into it,make it your big and best investment in life.
As years roll on you will see what i mean........it is the most amazing thing you will ever experience.
Think twice......how would you feel if they did it to you? It must be the worst feeling in the world....
Hey everyone, there is no good reason to cheat, to start off with.
If you feel neglected, unfulfilled or unhappy in your relationship (and for some reason, you didn't notice anything wrong before getting engaged!...):
1) talk to your partner about it;
2) if it doesn't work, put an end to the relationship;
3) then, and only then, seek out for a new date.
It's not that complicated; have some decency. It is a shame that there are so many cheaters - women and men - around.
[P.S. To those who are concerned. I know that faithful people do exist; even though it seems there are so few of us.]
Call me Zoidberg
But when a women steps out for a C#CK sandwich, its because the alpha male never told her that she looked pretty that day so she had to find a way to compliment herself and feel younger by letting another cheating man whore play jackhammer on her ass! We also don't cuddle, she felt emptiness/lonely and or vulnerable, did it for revenge or self-esteem (good one Bonnie!) , needed to self medicate and or a way to relieve stress, oh and lets not forget, we didn't give her a 30sec kiss that day.
WAY TO GO MSN, YOU JUST LET BONNIE WEIL (PH.D MIND YOU) SCREW US BOTH!!!
NOW WERE BOTH WHORES!
P.s Although there are many reasons why people cheat male or female, someone tell Mrs. PH.D there is no justification for cheating whether you have an innie or an outtie.
If you read the language used it certainly does imply what many men are complaining about here, 'closeenough'. I guarantee if I wrote this same article and replaced everything relating to sex to the opposite, it would be hell fire. You need to read this more objectively, it clearly puts blame on men for not being what they 'should be', instead of FOCUSING on the infidelity and as you imply women’s feelings of insecurity. Look at the title: 10 reason why women cheat: could you be at risk for infidelity? This implies that if you are doing/not doing these things, you could be cheated on. Not in one sentence does it talk about how inappropriate the woman’s behaviour is regardless of her feelings. That is biased.
I have a friend who's been in a relationship with a guy who makes her unhappy sexually for going on 6 years now she cheats on him all the time feels guilty but doesn't want to loose what she has. Some people are just greedy if you don't believe me go check out the article of ten ways to tell if your lover is cheating on you you will get a few shiny examples of fact.
You know the truth as opposed to your opinion suggests the door swings both ways.
It is interesting that there is a continual reminder and a conclusion that it is the responsibility of husbands to keep their wives from cheating.
Was that intended?
Anyone who cheats is cheating themselves and has little self-regard. Recognize Betrayal as s a gift and allow yourself to examine your own motives for chosing an "unavailable" partner who is not strong enough for the level of intimacy and commitment required in a healthy relationship. Ask yourself why a "temporary fix" is worth all of your heart and soul? I would rather stay out of relationships than settle for the cheap version of marriage that I got out of three years ago. He was addicted to pornography and other on-line boobies. No man that would be mine for keeps would let himself become a technological puppet!
I find the leading cause of cheating is the fact that most people are trying to make themselves happy and to some people that means juggling **** on the side at the expense of those looking for that certain romance . You don't need 11 reasons it's OK to lie for self indulgence because the means doesn't justify the end.
Anyways if you're in a relationship that's broken sometimes it's best to abandon it before it consumes you, love is blinding and sometimes it leads you believe you're happy even when all the signs suggest otherwise .
Women could cheat for a number of things....... female midlife crisis is a major one.
with movies & TV endorsing that behaviour and they find themselves getting older, hey wondwer if they are still attractive. so they getback in shape, hide the grey and flirt. what starts off maybe as harmless might escalate to cheating.
90% loyalty is still 100% DISLOYALTY.
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