Our own personal holiday traditions frame how we enjoy and celebrate special holidays. But since no two families are alike it can be tough to blend those loved traditions. Christmas morning can be a stressful time if one person has always opened presents at midnight but the other is used to waiting for daybreak. Holiday dinners can be contentious if one is used to long ritualistic events with family but the other likes to eat and get it over with (or, horrors, can't stand turkey). It gets even more complicated when people of different religious and cultural backgrounds get married. How do you blend traditions and keep everyone happy?
Underlying issue: My traditions are the 'right' way of observing the holiday; anything different from what I did growing up is the wrong way
Fight Meter: 6
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Y Cannot there be same articles written by a man writer. These articles are always one sided and that is a woman's side. Makes men feel as if what they feel is unimportant. In an equal relationship both the sides and there thoughts should be analyzed. These articles are make belief that it is only woman who have ISSUES. Men are human too and have feelings too. Believe it or not some men are more sensitive than women, I mean sensitive not sissy :-). I hope to see same articles written from men's POV and telling women what they need to do.
Not a woman hater by any chance just want men's POV to be portrayed as well.
I find it extremely disturbing how the institution of marriage is being viewed here. There are too many positives of being married and of having a family that is better than being unmarried and sleeping around or jumping through relationships.
What is important is to find a reason to compromise in a marriage and leaving the self for something better. The strange thing is that you do it in the office or at your job in the name of team work but forget that its the family and especially within the institution of marriage that you need to have the best teamwork.
Blaming marriages for your shortcomings is not going to solve the problems. Looking within you and finding a reason to change will.
Marriage IS about compromise& carring about the OTHER persons happyness-We Can Chooose to be friends& porn stars for each other-plan TOGETHER for the future-& find mutual compromises about lifestyle& home --Or we can try to CONTROL the other-or worry about what others outside our marriage think & try to live like OTHERS Tell us we should!!
Everything is a choice!
I had a 'near-perfect' mariage- now my dear husband is in a long term care with dementia.
Am I the only one who discussed all contensuous issue with my loved one before marrying him? Believe me, I wouldn't have maried him if I foresaw some serous flaws that couldn't be worked out.
No one mentioned that you have to be mature! I love him so much I did things I didn't care to- and he did the very same for me! I'm not referring to SEX- I'm talking MENTAL MATURITY...
Remember you don't have to marry at all!
just some advice: please fight in an appropriate time and place and resolve it under and hour. thx. -,-"