Why Guys Cheat on Hot Women
Some men can't stay faithful, even when they're already with gorgeous girls. Cosmo investigates this baffling behavior.
When we found out that Tiger Woods has had affairs, it was hard not to wonder if he'd lost his mind. What reason could there be for him to risk losing his wife, the smoking-hot former model Elin Nordegren? Although we don't know the behind-the-scenes details of their marriage, infidelity experts say it's not surprising that guys like Tiger indulge in sideline action. As it turns out, the reasons guys are unfaithful are rarely about the sex itself, but because cheating fuels a deep psychological need. "Several factors make some men more likely to stray, even if they are dating or married to a beautiful woman," says Don-David Lusterman, PhD, author of Infidelity: A Survival Guide.
The first factor at work is the man's level of success. Guys in high-profile, powerful positions — such as celebrities, athletes, business executives, and politicians — often have a sense of superiority and entitlement. "These guys have achieved a certain status, and bedding several attractive women further reinforces it in their mind," says Lusterman. Moreover, these men are constantly on the road, away from their girlfriends and wives. At the same time, their prominence attracts a slew of hot chicks who offer no-strings-attached sex. "They may have a wonderful partner waiting at home, but the situation they're in, coupled with their role of pursuer, makes it that much easier to cheat," adds Lusterman.
But celebs aren't the only snakes. Plenty of regular guys are unfaithful too, especially when their backgrounds condone it. Many two-timers come from chauvinistic cultures or families where their fathers cheated. "There are internal blueprints (created by watching our parents) that make cheating more of an option for some guys," according to Dr. Debbie Magids, author of All the Good Ones Aren't Taken. Also, men who were ignored as children often develop deep trust issues, which can make long-term relationships really difficult. "Chronic cheating is rooted in an emotional emptiness that can give people the need to feel constantly desired," she says.
Then there are guys whose bad behavior is actually a mental disorder. Sex addicts, for example, are so enslaved to the rush of sexual activity that they have affairs, visit prostitutes, and consume porn. "Ironically, many of them have happy relationships and feel guilty for cheating, but they can't stop," says Lusterman. Someone with narcissistic personality disorder, on the other hand, can't resist the temptation because he is obsessed with being adored.
Guys who have such extreme compulsions need psychiatric help. But just because a guy fits some of the other categories doesn't mean he'll automatically cheat. "It's important to pay attention to the warning signs, but whether a man will stray or not boils down to his level of honesty within the relationship and his loyalty to you," says Lusterman.
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PS With regards to the health implications of sexually transmitted diseases one needs to take a bigger picture view. A larger portion of men's and children’s health is negatively affected by the wife and mothers cooking (even in this modern age most women still make the dietary choices for the family) than is affected by any STD's. I can assure you that many more husbands and children get cancer and heart disease from foods they consume at home than from STD's that might result from any sexual dalliances. So very sad but true (and if you note, I do not state that I support one position or another).
Men like Tiger Woods have incredibly beautiful women throwing themselves at them 396 (24/7/365) No man could turn down all those skirts indefinitely. Part of the reason is the vanity of the woman. Just like a lot of men see getting a woman in bed as a conquest, vain women see bedding a married man, especially one with a gorgeous wife, as a conquest. This is a form of reassurance for the woman that she is so beautiful she can get any man she wants.
why do men cheat on hot girls? theres two saying I heard...No matter how good looking, somebody somewhere is fed up of her **** and attitude! and also, no matter how good looking, her **** still stinks!!
Some folk, men or women will cheat regardless of looks and also beauty is a very subjective issue.
Also, just to point out, we may have some primal instincts in us, but many of those animal tendencies have been broken down by society and evolution so that only in circumstances where our life is threaten are we actually going to turn to those instincts.
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