4 Signs He's Hiding Something
There might be a problem with your guy or maybe Melrose Place is making you paranoid. When in doubt, sit back and watch him
His Throat Gets Dry
Keeping something from you makes him nervous, and his body actually goes into freak-out mode. "When a secret is big enough that he's worried he may lose something important if it's revealed, research shows that his esophageal muscles will start to constrict, causing his throat to dry up," says Janine Driver, president of The Body Language Institute and author of You Say More Than You Think. "So if he begins swallowing a lot during your conversation, it's because he's trying to loosen up those throat muscles." Pay attention to the topic you hit on when this happens — it will give you a hint as to what his secret relates to.
He Wants More Sex
Yes, maybe he's just extra horny or you're looking extra hot, but a sudden surge in his sexual appetite can also be a sign that something's awry. "A man who's hiding something won't want to connect emotionally through conversation because he's afraid if he does, he'll spill the secret," says Krista Bloom, PhD, a psychologist in Florida. "Instead, because he loves you, he'll look to fill that void by connecting with you physically." But since various things can cause a spike in a guy's sex drive — like an awesome shift in your relationship sparked by, say, getting engaged — don't accuse him of anything without ruling out other explanations.
He Gives Too Many Details
Don't be fooled by a guy who offers up tons of minor bits of information about where he's been or what he's been doing. At first, it may seem that because he can describe so much, he must be truthful. But he could actually be trying to cover his ass. "If he's telling a story and you notice he's peppering it with insignificant details, that's a warning sign," says Driver. "This is especially true if you detect a lot of pauses, because it means he's trying to come up with more facts." Think about it: When you're speaking honestly, you never actually go into all the minutiae — like the name of the bartender or what color the walls were — because you don't retain that superfluous info in everyday life.
His Hands Go into His Pockets
Pay close attention to what he does with his hands if you're sensing he's concealing something, says Driver. "When a person suddenly buries his hands or even touches one body part to another, like by holding the back of his neck, it could be his way of comforting himself because he knows he's doing something wrong." There's one caveat: Some guys naturally stand with their hands in their pockets. So if this is a normal stance for your man, don't immediately assume he's a liar.
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Many people who hear my story, ask me why I still trust men? because not all men cheat or lie. I have not had a relationship yet due to my cultures and beliefs but even after all I have been through, think I can trust men. I have not met a man who has not called me hurtful names, looked at me in disgust, and only looked at my physical appearance but I still have hope. I'm not overly fat but I am not thin and beautiful either. I think you can never tell if someone is hiding something, unless you know them well enough and know their weak spots. I can not lie, because I tend to laugh when I do. Everyone is different and unique. It is difficult to look at everyone with the same eyes as the woman who writes this article. One man can lie and not feel guilty, the next can lie but will feel guilty and will end up confessing no matter what. This goes to show, its depends on the person, the way they are brought up, and etc.
WOW! would you all listen to ursleves? many of the men who have commented are pissed about all the man bashing and then they go and do the exact same thing to women saying that we are irrational and other crap like that. i don't agree with this article in any way, but all of the posts show so much about society!
It's not men are like this.. or women are like that... it's PEOPLE!!!! We're all screwed up today. everyone's trying to cover their own asses and blame the other gender.
For example... a lot of u said that women overanalyze everything.. well a guy that i dated this year wouldn't let me hang out or even talk to any of my guy friends without getting all pissed off. he even had a bunch of his friends watch me when i was in the caf to see if i would sit with anyone of the male gender. he also went through my whole facebook friends list and found that i had wayyy more guy friends than girl friends. so its not just WOMEN.... it's people who have been screwed over in the past. for the record i have never cheated on anyone in my life and i also didn't take the way he treated me into my next relationship. that's part of the problem... we can't compare each other to past relationships!
also a lot of ppl who r suspicious r the one's cheating... i've seen it from both genders so many times. for example my friend was dating this guy who would never let her go out and he questioned everything especially when a guy wrote on her facebook wall. in the end he cheated on her with several girls. (i know my examples seem to be bashing guys but like i said ive seen it from both genders.. these r just the examples that came to mind first).
So get it right ppl... all men are not lying, cheating pigs.... and all women do not over analyze and are not all irrational! i found the comments more offensive than the actual article and i only read the article to see how ppl reacted to it. the comments were very entertaining!
Stop bashing each other and jsut realize that life is f***** today and it's all about the sex... the real enemy is not these articles... it's us wanting more than wat we have and taking people in our lives for granted. it's also us taking past relationship experiences into new ones. OPEN YOUR HEARTS BEFORE YOUR PANTS!!!!!
I love these 'female experts' and their continual sexist drivel.
As a man, I'd rather see relationships abolished permanently so we don't have deal with or hear about this bull****.
@ Big Pappa
Among all the cynicism, and harsh responses (many of them well-founded, as admittedly this may feed into some women's paranoia) , I found yours, and was moved by your words. Thank you for sharing that with us.
I would like to say for the record that this article is "Incorrect" and its just a way to get women/men attention. I myself can retain the "superfluous details" and I always stop in the middle of sentence because, yes I am thinking but its better to stop and think then to continuously say "uumm uhhh" especially if your the type that talks in detail. Recollecting is NOT a sign of dishonesty. And in terms of "a guy who offers up tons of minor bits of information" quote, I feel more comfortable with the guy I am dating especially if he knows more than less. Who does this MISINFORMATION apply to?
To comment on the Sexual Depiction, we as human beings are very sexual in nature, both men and women, though women are starting to feel more comfortable with it and to deny that would go against the very fabric of our genetic disposition.
I would prefer if the writer of the article come up with some hard undisputable facts rather than to debunk their own information with theoretical evidence. LOL
"Funny the games children play"- Breach
FroDaddy.... Hopefully this clarifies a little bit for everyone.... NOT all women read those dumb mags .... oh wait maybe thats why i agree with u... i do believe women do over analyze everything and maybe it is due to those articles and this one is not really helping.... totally stupid and irrelevant... everyone lies and keeps secrets and most of the time those liars, cheaters etc get caught .... so really why hold such anger?? as for SoaringDove **** who cares! WE all make our decisions we are all adults and we all have to take this **** we read as pure entertainment... for all we know the person writing these articles is lying and his/her throat is dry or perhaps sore....?? LOL
This article is realy stupid, not even close to the truth.
I've never been unfaithful to my wife. Now I want more sex with her because I had the vasectomy done on me, you know all the fears of unwanted pregnacies are gone. So I want to enjoy sex more freely. Believe me this has nothing to do with me being a cheater cause I am not.
It is all about getting women to buy more product if you don't trust your boyfriend/husband and you trust what the article is saying then you have essentially accepted the whole publication and everything that is in it including the advertisers.
Cosmo etc... knows how to win you over. With an article that makes you angry with your boyfriend, husband or men in general. And the Cosmos of the world can brainwash you with this bull****; in order, to have you build up a subconscious feeling of self-righteous anger toward men then they know that you have accepted them - they make you believe they are on your side - essentially they have you under their thumb....and they know if you accept 'Cosmos' you will accept all of the advertisers in their publication. Hence, regardless of how true the article is they have you hooked. They have got you ladies!!! You the modern woman will buy more because the Cosmos of the world have given you a reason to do some emotional buying based on how much of a liar your boyfriend/husband. That boyfriend/husband of course has been molded according to the Cosmos that is attempting to sell you something for their own gain. A magazine and the advertisements inside. They don't care if they f..k up your head with b...sh..t . They DON"T CARE IF THEY F...K UP YOUR LOVING RELATIONSHIP based on their brainwashing that made you paranoid....they just want money out of you - CAN"T YOU WOMEN SEE HOW YOU ARE BEING MANIPULATED?????? Wise UP!!!!!!
"research has proven that the throat constricts, causing it to feel dry. It's biology, not a stereotype."
Source of reliable research study that supports this claim?
I call shenanigans....
Grow up Nancy Drew, just because a guy can remember the name of a bartender or has a desire for more sex does not directly correlate to a guy being a cheater. Get your facts straight before you start painting all men with the same brush. If that’s to much to ask, then I suggest the least you can do is provide women with more information as to why a guy might do any one of your aforementioned “hiding techniques” even though they have nothing to hide. It's trash like this that gets posted on a website and tries to convince women that men are always hiding something. No wonder the divorce rate in North America is at minimum 50%. Why don't you write some meaningful articles about "How to make a relationship last the test of time."
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