A lousy day at work can put you in a fighting mood. But experts say that a few tactical moves can set a more harmonious tone at home
How awesome would it be if you could walk through the door after work, shed the stress of your day, and immediately launch into some quality bonding time with your mate? Well, this isn't the set of The Brady Bunch, people. Research shows that the hour after you get home from your job is a dicey time for couples - it's often marked by moodiness and bickering, especially nowadays with job satisfaction levels at record lows. Throw in a hellish commute, a growling stomach, and a few buzzing gadgets reminding you of tomorrow's to-do list, and the phrase "Honey, I'm home" seems more like a warning sign than a warm greeting.
"I call it the adult tantrum hour," says couples mediator Laurie Puhn, J.D., author of Fight Less, Love More. "We've been holding our tongues all day, so coming home means you can let loose with - or lash out at - your partner."
The flip side: Learning to navigate that after-work hour together can help you build a stronger union. In fact, couples who deal with stress together are happier in their relationships than couples who don't handle the daily grind as a pair, according to a study in the Journal of Family Psychology. Follow these three steps to ensure smoother sailing until lights-out:
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Date 10-09-07, Duration 2:23, Views 295586
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