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The Perfect Age To Get Married

Twenty-five years old is the apparently the "right age" for couples to start getting married, says a recent study published in The Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. Or at least that's the number the researchers received when they asked 536 college students their opinion on the perfect age to tie the knot


The Perfect Age To Get Married

Of course, this huge decision shouldn't be based on some survey results. If you want to know if she's jonesing for an engagement ring, she's probably already telling you. "Women often drop subtle hints when they're thinking about getting engaged," Tracey Steinberg, an NYC-based dating and flirting expert, tells MensHealth.com. "And usually their sole purpose is to figure out where you stand on the matter."

If you're curious whether or not she's got her eye on a rock, here are four common scenarios to look out for.

Clue 1: All of her friends are getting married, and it's the best thing ever!
Wedding season can bring out the inner romantic in all of us, but if your girl can't stop gushing about her best friend's big day, something may be up. "Being excited for a friend is normal," says Steinberg. But if she's repetitively bringing up how much fun planning the event must be, or how great being engaged must feel, that's a dead giveaway it's on her mind, says Steinberg.
 

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Clue 2: She's suddenly the master of hypothetical scenarios.
If watching a romantic comedy suddenly brings out her inner detective, take note. Women will often use cues from TV shows or movies to pose hypothetical questions about your 5-year plan, your stance on kids, or your views on marriage, says Steinberg. Now this obviously isn't a bad thing--it's clearly an easy way to broach a serious topic. "But asking you about your desires for the future is a classic indicator that she sees you in hers," Steinberg explains.

Clue 3: Every engagement commercial warrants a response from her.
We get it: The folks over at Kay Jewelers are emotion-evoking geniuses when it comes to making commercials. But if she's going out of her way to express how adorable every engagement commercial is, or comments on how creative each proposal was--chances are she wants you to get the hint, says Steinberg.

Clue 4: She's buttering you up.
Some women choose to get their point across without saying exactly what they mean. Case in point: If she's consistently telling you how critical you are to her happiness, and that she can't imagine her life without you in it, that's pretty much your green light for proposal, says Steinberg. "It's the easiest way to let you know, that if you did propose, she'd clearly say yes," explains Steinberg.
 

 

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Jan 11, 2013 1:50PM
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This is so ridiculous.  They asked teenagers what the best age is for getting married????  That's like asking a 5 year old if candy is a good breakfast choice.  They have no idea the serious nature of a marriage commitment, the compromise and difficulty that comes with it, the sacrifice that is involved.  And that's in a good marriage.  Before kids.  When I was 18 I wanted to be married in my early 20s (well, I wanted to be engaged and have a wedding, which I think is what most people really think about when you ask them about marriage), but that does not mean I had any insightful thoughts on what that really means.  I spent my 20s getting to know myself as an individual, an adult (not as someone's child), and it was great; not without it's own challenges, but great.  I grew mentally and emotionally, and felt prepared to make a good choice when the time came.  I often joke (sort of) that people should not be allowed to get married until they are 30!  Well, that's my 2 cents; everyone is different, after all.
Jan 11, 2013 12:12PM
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I would think that 25 would be too early to get married. You don't start figuring out who you are and what you want in life until then! It's very hard to promise to be with someone for the rest of your life when neither of you actually know yourselves or each other properly yet.
Jan 11, 2013 2:11PM
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What do 536 college students know about the perfect age to tie the knot? I would have preferred a larger sample of married or previously married people to answer this survey. The majority of college students are basing their opinion on some theoretical knowledge that they got from a lecture or a book. I would prefer to hear from the couples who have some real life experience. This article should have been entitled Unmarried college students feel the right time to get married is 25 yrs old.
Jan 11, 2013 2:11PM
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Unless you were born with a spoon in your mouth and a crystal ball in your crib, get your education debts cleared up; establish your career and employment status; move in with your prospective spouse in order to logically set your mutual goals, discuss your expectations and truly understand your real attraction and compatibilities; put the biological baby-clock on hold and "live" your future 50-60 years together on a 2 year experimental basis. An extra 5 years (30 years of age) of patience may prove to be romantically and financially worthwhile in the long run.  Lawyers, marriage councillors, jewellers and wedding venues have made a mint (and counting) off "flavour of the day" romances. Marriage is a contract and a commitment... not a weekend excursion and sleepover.   
Jan 11, 2013 4:23PM
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I think a good age to marry would be 95, so neither will live long enough to get tired of the other.
Jan 11, 2013 3:52PM
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25!!!

 

For the North - It really doesnt matter how old you are - cuz ppl are ALREADY having kids!!!

 

yeah - most ppl that I know - are practically already married and have like 3 or 4 kids.......

 

Timing Means Everything

 

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