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Updated: January 3, 2013 10:45 AM | By JULIE TAYLOR
The Rules: How to Have a One-Night Stand

When done right, a one-night stand can be exciting and even empowering! Follow our rules to make it a great night!



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“Women can enjoy sex the same way men can,” says sex therapist Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First: TheThinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. And a one-night stand provides a great opportunity to enjoy sex with no strings attached. But you’ve got to be safe -- and smart. “Hooking up with a friend of a friend, or someone who is one or two degrees of separation from you, can make you feel safer and more comfortable since you’re not dealing with a totally unknown entity,” says Kerner. If you are hooking up with a stranger, he recommends going to your place (versus his) or even a hotel where there are people around as a safer option. No matter where you do the deed, condoms are a must. And watch your alcohol consumption, too. “So much casual sex happens as a result of inhibitions being lowered by drinking, but in the end, you want to feel like you made a good, safe decision,” Kerner says. “It’s fine to have fun and drink, but make sure you are the one lowering inhibitions for yourself and aren’t letting alcohol make you do something you wouldn’t normally do.” So one martini is fine, but four? Not so much.

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Jan 4, 2013 9:44AM
Jan 4, 2013 10:09AM
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Women, once your reputation is lost & all of this guys buddies have caught wind of it, good luck to you!

You are worth more than a "One night stand" !!!

Jan 4, 2013 4:16PM
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People now are reduced to the animal`state ``Sex without love and commitment.`` How low we have gotten, sex therapist Ian Kerner to even suggest that women have night-stands, multiple partners. This therapist, truly, doesn`t understand human kind, emotions, let alone morality. He shouldn`t have a licence! People/women should not heed that sick advice. Instead they should look for true love and commitment. Make sure you get with someone that is compatible with you. Believe me, life/sex is so much fun when you`re with someone that loves you for you and your conscience is clean. You`re no animal!!! Don`t forget the risks of unwanted pregnancy and STD`s!!! The condom or nothing can protect you from emotional/spiritual scares. We should not go by feelings only but also by principles. Be the queen that God created you to be!!! Have high standards!!!
Jan 4, 2013 1:56PM
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Yeah, there's the girl I would take home to meet my family....
"so...how did you two meet?....well mom we met drinking at a bar then we ****** our brains out after a couple of hours and then I asked her name and well, here we are! I really want to spend the rest of my life with this free hooker". (because I'm pretty sure she wouldn't do everything that walks like she did me!) She's such a nice girl!

and of course it's men that are objectifying women, right! Women have nothing to do with that.
Jan 4, 2013 4:16PM
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Tell the non-one night guy that you are a **** upfront. Those of us who are not into one night stands don't want to know a ****!
Jan 4, 2013 3:10PM
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When you meet some nice guy, just be honest with him up front. Let him decide if he wants a relationship with a girl who's into one night stand.  Nothing like finding out long after the fact

Jan 14, 2013 12:05AM
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Fairly benign article as this is common sense stuff for the many of us who have had one-nighters.  Certainly nothing to get upset about.   I don't see how it's disrespectful to women as there's no implied adultery or promiscuity.  There's no shame in having fun.  And if you want to make your fun a little more guilt free then there are some guidelines, as stated in this article, for the uninitiated.  Keep your on-line dating profile updated but enjoy being single while you can!
Jan 4, 2013 2:10PM
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anyone need to hire a Private Eye ....
Jan 23, 2013 1:48AM
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What's happened to morality? Love? If a woman needs instant sexual gratification, then go and buy yourself a toy! Giving advice on what night stands - what is this world coming to? No wonder STD's are so rampant...I'm not a prude..I just have morals..too bad much of society doesn't seem to anymore..
Jan 4, 2013 9:05PM
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This article should've never been posted. Disrespect to good women. Julie Taylor needs to find a hobby.
Jan 4, 2013 10:19PM
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I can't believe this immoral article. I just want to comment:--  A woman's character is really important--whether it is East or West.  That is why we have bad names for a women like **** etc. but for a man the word is playboy---such a beautiful word.

 

Also it is extremely dangerous to go to bed with a stranger. That man can be a criminal or a psycho etc. what happens if he pursues or becomes obsessed later on?  Then there can be health issues also. So many negative things---.    

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