What I Wish I Knew When I Was Younger
For every young woman who wished she was thinner, prettier, funnier...some sage advice from a woman who's been there.
I've just learned that one of my favourite young friends shares a birthday month with me. She'll be turning 21, whilst I'll be turning fifty-two. So for her and for every other younger women, I've learned some valuable things about life, love and being female over the past half-century and I thought if I passed some of the more important ones on to you, maybe it will save you some precious time:
1. You are at least ten times prettier than you think you are. That holds true no matter how pretty you already think you are! Don't believe me? Ask your mother/auntie/grannie if she thought she was pretty when she was twenty. She'll say, "no." Then find a photo of her at that age. See what I mean? (Even celebrities struggle with body issues. Kim Kardashian shares her body image fears.)
2. The only thing you should be faking is confidence. If you don't have it yet, pretend you do. In every new situation, pretend you're not nervous, pretend you're not afraid. After a few times doing this, the pretend part disappears.
Let's hear it: What advice would you pass on?
3. Want to try something new, like painting, skiing, running your own business? Go to the library and borrow ten different books on the subject. Skim through them all, find the ones that have the most vital information and study them. Then see number 2. (Check out Oprah's 10 favourite books from the last decade.)
4. No matter how old you get, remember what it was like to be a nine-year old girl. Remember the feeling of freedom. If you've already forgotten, do a cartwheel. You can so still do one. Savour that feeling. Wake up with it every day. You'll stay young until the day you die.
5. In the same vein, cut or potted flowers are never a waste of money. Because every time we glance at them, they remind us how much beauty there can be in the world. Learn how to arrange flowers like a florist.
6. Speaking of money, starting right this moment, whether you're twenty or sixty, you can change your finances around. Don't leave someone else completely in charge, whether it's your husband, partner, parents or banker. Become financially saavy. Financial independence gives you the freedom to walk away from many bad situations. How do you know you're in bad situation? See number seven.
7. If your stomach hurts and you haven't got a virus, you're in a bad situation. Before you know what it is, your stomach always does. Give yourself some time to ponder what it might be that's making your stomach hurt. Chances are you already do know, you just don't want to believe it, for some reason. You can ignore advice from your friends, even your own brain, but you can't ignore your stomach, because the stomach never lies. Oh, and by the way? - Drowning your stomach in alcohol won't make it stop telling you the truth, either.
8. When meeting someone new and he or she seems to be behaving like a jerk, show compassion first. If after you display your sincere compassion, they are still acting like a jerk, walk away. If they follow you, call the police.
9. Wear sunscreen on your face, neck and hands every day, winter and summer. I don't care how dark your skin naturally is. Wear it. You'll remember me when you look in the mirror at age fifty. Always keep in mind that Your body is directly connected to your spirit. Look after your body. Exercise, floss and brush your teeth. Put nothing in your body that can permanently harm your spirit, including the wrong man. (Find out if your sunscreen unsafe.)
10. And if you are in bed with a man and he's the right man - meaning your stomach doesn't hurt, he's smiling at you, he knows your name, he's not drunk and neither are you - for goddsakes - enjoy yourself. He is not at all thinking about how fat your thighs look.
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To the people dissing this article.... how sad for you that you have an old soul. Do you kick small puppies and kittens? Do you take candy from children and bottles from babies? My heart hurts for people like you who cannot look at something and see some value.
I liked this article, because I wish I had known what I know now 20 years ago. (I am now 33)
With the way magazines portray "beautiful" these days (anorexic blemish free women) it's imporant for women of all ages to realize they are beautiful, because god made them that way. And god knows.... those "beautiful" airbrushed models would probably give their left leg and maybe an arm too to be able to enjoy a hambuger without the threat of losing their job.
Crazycanuuk... wisdom is not the word I would give to someone who can't even spell canuck. And the writer beats you hands down in spirit... when you die, will you be thinking about all the less-intelligent people you got to make fun of through your life? Probably. I know I will be going at full-tilt thinking "what a ride!"
agreed with ashley 85. Already lived most of that and learnt the rest of the list from experiences and im only 24. However knowing all that makes me feel 40 inside. :/ do drugs ull feel young forever bahahaha.
defined as “the passing off of another person's work as if it were one's own, by claiming
credit for something that was actually done by someone else”. Plagiarism is not always
intentional or stealing some things from some one else; it can be unintentional or
accidental and may comprise of self stealing."
Anyway, good article. Not sure about #10 Akin to the "size doesn't matter" philosophy.
every time I'm in doubt
Nice plagerism there Ms.Volonakis. The original of this was written by Mary Schmich
and published in the Chicago Tribune as a column in 1997. It was entitled "Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young". So Ms. Volonakis, if you are going to write something, at least make it your own. Don't steal somebody else's script add a bit of waffle and a hint of sex, and take credit.
And for the readers, try reading the original. Way better!!!
I am 44.. and I have to say this woman is right on the money. I would do a cart wheel, if I could.. Getting older has taken that from me via a badly fractured wrist that didn't set right. oh well.. I can still dance in the rain.
I would love to have a time machine so I could go back and have a sit down with the younger me! Since that is not possible, I will just continue to live every day with the idea of enjoying my life, and passing along whatever jewels of wisdom I can to the younger generation.. On that note, I strongly suggest you listen to some Sophie Tucker, and some Saffire and the Uppity Women of Blues. Sure, the songs are mostly from a long forgotten time, but damn, they have some great advice!
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